Highlights 

[Min. 00:30] - the reason you might be getting defensive in the first place

[Min. 00:50] - why do we have Emotionally-Triggered Behaviors like Defensiveness?

[Min. 01:05] - Early-Age Trauma - we ALL have them - they are events that created a hard stop in your emotional status.

[Min. 02:33] - It is only through self-discovery of who you are now that we can recreate the self - you can’t edit what you can’t see.

[Min. 03:09] - WRITING PROMPTS: Answer this question for yourself: Has the idea that you are defensive ever been brought to your attention by a friend or trusted person in your life? (and more)

[Min. 04:10] - Why do we explore Defensiveness first?

[Min. 04:20] - Defensiveness explored in relationship to receiving feedback from people in your life. 

[Min. 04:55] - How has your Defensiveness been necessary?....[Min. 05:20] - It’s a learned tactic.

[Min. 06:30] - When we have no control over ourselves, we are not emotionally sober.

[Min. 07:10] - Having the ability to see ourselves truthfully is the only level of “perfection” we can reach as humans.

[Min. 07:18] - We cannot be human and be perfect, but we can have perfect vision of ourselves. And defensiveness is our first block to growth.

[Min. 07:32] - There are countless reasons to put up this “fence.”

[Min. 07:36] - As you begin to know yourself in the present you create the opportunity to determine what you intend to keep and what you intend to remodel in yourself. That’s what this process is designed to do!

[Min. 08:00] - Removing the fence that blocks you from looking at yourself is a courageous first step.

[Min. 08:06] - After you complete your Emotional Sobriety Training, when someone calls attention to something about you, you will be able to calmly relay your truth.